Red flags on a first date
#1Rudeness to staff#2The "Cruel Joke"#3The Monologue#4Trauma Dumping#5The "Crazy Ex" Narrative#6Physical Pushiness#7Love Bombing#8Phone Obsession#9"I’m a bit of a jerk/handful."#10"I don't really do labels."#11"My last partner complained that I was [emotionally unavailable/controlling]."#12Order-Shaming#13Testing your "Vibe"#14The Interrogation#15Gut Feeling+4 more
#1Monopolizing the Conversation#2Constant Complaining/Negativity#3Dominating the Topics#4Interrupting Constantly#5Vague or Evasive Answers#6Talking About Exes Excessively#7Oversharing Inappropriate Personal Details#8Lack of Reciprocity in Questions#9Disrespectful Behavior Towards Service Staff#10Excessive Phone Usage#11Arrogance/Entitlement#12Condescending or Patronizing Tone#13Aggressive or Demanding#14Dishonesty or Exaggeration#15Lack of Effort+14 more
#1Disrespectful behavior#2Boundary issues#3Self-centered behavior#4Concerning attitudes#5Lying about things from their profile#6Excessive drinking or pressure to drink#7Discussing marriage/kids on first date#8Vague about their life circumstances#9Angry outbursts or mood swings#10Making you feel uncomfortable or unsafe#11Trust Your Gut
#1firmly say no and leave#2ending the date#3cutting it short#4remove yourself#5seek help#6let someone know where you are#7don't comply#8suggest public places#9keep control over logistics#10Set clear boundaries verbally#11observe whether they respect them#12Share your plans and location with a friend#13arrange a check-in time#14Use public places for early dates#15keep your phone charged+5 more
#1Disrespect to others#2Boundary pushing#3Controlling behavior#4Love-bombing#5intensity too fast#6Constant negativity#7Trashing exes excessively#8Dishonesty#9inconsistencies#10Poor listening#11Entitlement#12Aggression#13volatility#14Substance issues on display#15Phone behavior+6 more
#1Lack of Communication#2Overly Negative Attitude#3Disrespectful Behavior#4Inconsistencies in Stories#5Mentioning an Ex Too Often#6Pressure to Move Too Fast#7Checking Their Phone Constantly#8Extreme Jealousy or Possessiveness#9Talking Badly About Others#10Substance Abuse#11Disinterest in Future Plans#12Talk of Manipulation or Control#13Unwillingness to Share#14Unrealistic Expectations#15Intolerance or Prejudice
#1Dismissive or rude to service staff#2Monopolizes conversation without asking about you#3Makes everything about themselves#4Excessive complaining or negativity#5Overly critical of exes or others#6Pushing physical intimacy too fast#7Ignoring your "no" or hesitation#8Asking invasive personal questions#9Wanting to move very quickly (moving in, meeting family)#10Stories that don't add up#11Evasiveness about basic facts#12Caught in small lies#13Hidden phone behavior when secretive#14Intense declarations of love/future plans too early#15Love-bombing followed by criticism+10 more
#1ending the date#2leave the situation#3seeking help#4asking clarifying questions#5excuse yourself politely#6arrange safe transportation#7offer to split the bill#8ending the date#9politely decline#10de-escalate#11leaving the situation#12stepping back#13verbally assert your space#14move to a more public setting#15clarifying your own values+15 more