| # | Entity | Score |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | How They Treat Service Staff | 13.0 |
| 2 | Mean-spirited "people watching" | 13.0 |
| 3 | The "Cruel Joke" | 11.5 |
| 4 | Entitlement | 10.2 |
| 5 | Making decisions for you | 10.0 |
| 6 | Disrespect to others | 10.0 |
| 7 | Financial Red Flags | 10.0 |
| 8 | The Ex-File | 10.0 |
| 9 | Oversharing (Trauma Dumping) | 10.0 |
| 10 | Doesn’t accept “no” | 9.4 |
#1Aggressive or controlling behavior#2Excessive anger or volatility#3Ignores boundaries#4Stalking vibes#1Disrespect to others#2Trash-talks exes nonstop#3Over-the-top negativity#4Lying or inconsistencies#1Financial red flags#2No effort or hygiene issues#3One-sided conversation#4Heavy substance use
#1Lack of Interest in You#2Negative Talk#3Controlling Behavior#4Excessive Complaining#5Inconsistent Stories#6Rushed Intimacy#7Talking About Marriage or Kids Too Soon#8Disrespect Towards Service Staff#9Substance Abuse#10Jealousy#11Lack of Boundaries#12Talking Politics/Religion Too Soon#13Tech Distractions#14Unresolved Emotional Baggage#15Inconsistency in Words and Actions
#1Rudeness to service staff#1Mean-spirited "people watching"#2The Monologue#2The Ex-File#2Oversharing (Trauma Dumping)#3Physical pushiness#3Pressuring you to drink#3Invading your space#4The "All My Exes Are Crazy" Narrative#4Love Bombing#4Constant Phone Use#5The "Needy" Vibe#5Total Negativity#5Lying about Small Things
#1Pays no attention to the venue#2Avoids sharing basic details#3He/she doesn’t let you see the exit / blocks your phone#4Seeks to keep you after the agreed-upon time#5Drinks far beyond the legal limit, then is overly affectionate#1Disregards your “no” (physical or conversational)#2Talks over you or interrupts constantly#3Makes demeaning jokes about gender, race, sexuality, or disability#4Creates an “all-or-nothing” scenario#5Pushes for personal info too quickly#1Constantly checks their phone or is “always” on social media#2Talks about exes obsessively#3Overly vague about future plans#4Uses “ghosting” or disappears after the date#5Speaks only about themselves+7 more
#1Disrespecting service staff or others#1Controlling behavior#1Excessive phone use or distraction#1Dominating conversation/not asking about you#1Love-bombing or intense pressure to commit quickly#2Dishonesty about basic facts#2Badmouthing all exes#2Refusing to discuss important topics#2Pressuring you to share intimate details too fast#3Ignoring your "no" or hesitation#3Unwanted physical escalation#3Pushing alcohol or substances#3Making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable#4Major lies about job, living situation, etc.#4Financial irresponsibility or demanding money+2 more
#1Being rude to service staff#2Constantly interrupting you or talking over you#3Checking their phone constantly and being disengaged#4Being late with no explanation or apology#5Being overly critical or negative about everything#6Being visibly drunk or high#7Inappropriate or offensive jokes#8Pressuring you to do something you're not comfortable with#9Talking excessively about themselves and not asking about you#10Oversharing extremely personal or traumatic information early on#11Badmouthing their ex excessively#12Expressing controlling or possessive attitudes#13Lying or exaggerating#14Love bombing#15Differing values on major issues+8 more
#1Rude to service staff#2Cruel “jokes”#3Entitlement#4Doesn’t accept “no”#5Moves too fast physically#6Guilt-tripping#7Hot-and-cold or love-bombing#8Excessive jealousy/possessiveness#9Frequent anger, sarcasm, or defensiveness#10Trashes every ex#11Brags about manipulation#12Major dishonesty#13Bigotry#14Invasive questions#15Gets very drunk/high+14 more
#1Trust your gut#2Keep boundaries firm and clear#3If you feel unsafe, leave#4Use an exit strategy#5call emergency services#6Meet in a public place#7Share your plans and location with a friend or family member#8arrange a check-in time#9use a “share location” feature#10Have your own transportation or a ride arranged#11Limit alcohol#12don’t leave drinks unattended#13Keep personal info private#14Decide on an exit strategy ahead of time#15Consider bringing cash+11 more