#1Overtly Grieving More Than the Immediate Family#2Dominating Conversations with Your Own Stories#3Using the Funeral as a Platform for Personal Announcements#4Arguing with the Bereaved#5Dressing to Be Noticed#6Ignoring the Dress Code#7Talking Loudly or Disruptively#8Constant Cell Phone Use#9Bringing Children Who Can't Behave#10Being Intoxicated#11Clichés and Empty Platitudes#12Comparing Grief#13Focusing on the Negative Aspects of the Deceased#14Pressuring for Information#15Disregarding Seating Arrangements+12 more
#1Stealing from the deceased, their estate, or the casket#2Physically assaulting or fighting with family members at the service or wake#3Publicly humiliating, slandering, or revealing intimate/embarrassing details about the deceased#4Posting photos, videos, or private details online without permission#5Making the funeral about yourself#6Getting dangerously intoxicated or behaving lewdly at the service or reception#8Showing up uninvited with disruptive guests#9Threatening or attempting legal or financial attacks#10Refusing to help with urgent practical tasks you agreed to do#12Intentionally excluding close family#13Ask before you act#14Err on the side of restraint#15Limit intake#16Bring a sober support person or stay home#17Respect cultural/religious practices+6 more
#1Turning the wake/visitation into your personal stage#2Rehashing old grievances in front of others#3Asking about the will at the funeral or during the first days of grief#4"Calling dibs" on items, taking things from the home, or pressuring family to "be fair" immediately#5Publicly accusing someone of wrongdoing#6Overriding the deceased’s or immediate family’s plan#7Bringing in unapproved clergy/speakers or altering the program last minute#8Live-streaming or inviting extra people after being told it’s private#9Announcing the death before the next of kin notifies people#10Posting photos/video of the body, casket, graveside, or grieving relatives#11Sharing cause of death, family conflict, or “hot takes” publicly#12Showing up intoxicated/high, vaping, chewing loudly, or acting flippant#14Wearing attention-grabbing outfits in a “look at me” way#16Airing dirty laundry: affairs, addictions, family secrets#17Forcing hugs/physical contact; insisting someone “needs” to talk+10 more
#1Delivering an impromptu “speech” or eulogy without being asked#2Using the platform to air grievances or “set the record straight”#3Showing up in overly flamboyant, bright, or casual clothing#4Wearing clothing that displays controversial symbols or messages#5Leaving the ceremony early without a clear, respectful reason#6Ignoring or mocking ritual actions#7Handling the body or casket inappropriately#8Using a phone (calling, texting, scrolling, taking photos/video) during the service#9Loud talking or laughing#10Intoxication#11Refusing to contribute or outright refusing to pay for a requested family expense#12Arriving far too early or far too late#13Bringing uninvited guests#14Posting disrespectful or overly casual captions on social media#15Posting photos of the funeral that reveal private details+13 more
#1Airing Family Dirty Laundry or Grievances#3Making the Death About You#4Bringing "The Enemy" as a Guest#5Inappropriate Use of Social Media#6Correcting the Mourners#7Substance Abuse and Making a Scene#8Treating it Like a Networking Event
#1Showing Up in Costume or Party Attire#2Live-Tweeting or Posting on Social Media#3Delivering a "Roast" Eulogy#4Getting Hammered at the Reception#5Bringing an Uninvited +1#6Arguing Over the Will or Inheritance On-Site#7Flirting, Hooking Up, or PDA#8Overeating or Hoarding Food from the Spread#9Crying Louder Than the Bereaved or One-Upping Grief#10Leaving Early Without a Word (or Ghosting the Family)
#1Bringing Up and Amplifying Family Feuds or Scandals#2Excessive, Inappropriate, or Publicly Disingenuous Displays of Grief#3Making Demands or Being Entitled#4Publicly Criticizing the Deceased or the Funeral Arrangements#5Getting Intoxicated and Causing a Scene#6Bringing Up Controversial Religious or Political Views#7Ignoring the Immediate Family's Wishes or Boundaries#8Using the Funeral for Personal Promotion or Self-Aggrandizement#9Accusations of Theft of Personal Belongings#10Disregarding Specific Cultural or Religious Protocols
#1Loudly discussing how *you* feel, your grief is worse, or comparing losses#2Turning the eulogy into your personal spotlight moment#3Creating drama that shifts focus from the deceased#4Criticizing the person who died at their own funeral#5Openly opposing their final wishes or funeral arrangements#6Making jokes about their death#7Taking selfies with the casket or posting inappropriate social media content#8Being visibly intoxicated or using drugs at the service#9Starting arguments about inheritance or family disputes#10Making romantic or sexual advances during mourning events#11Complaining about the food, venue, or arrangements to grieving family#12Checking your phone constantly or taking non-emergency calls during the service#13Bringing uninvited guests or children when explicitly asked not to#14Asking about inheritance or what you're "getting"#15Wearing wildly inappropriate attire (club clothes, offensive messages)+3 more
#1Arriving drunk or getting intoxicated during the service#2Making it about yourself#3Arguing or starting conflict with other mourners#4Checking your phone constantly or taking selfies at the service#5Criticizing the deceased or bringing up old grudges#6Flirting or hitting on people at the funeral#7Telling inappropriate jokes or laughing loudly#8Showing up uninvited to private family moments#9Missing the funeral without explanation after saying you'd attend#10Announcing you won't come at the last minute#11Bringing uninvited guests, especially children to adult-only services#12Complaining about the venue, food, or arrangements#13Offering "help" then disappearing when actually needed#14Making the family pay your travel costs they didn't agree to#15Asking about inheritance during or right after the service
#1Disrespecting the Deceased#2Ignoring Cultural or Religious Practices#3Making It About Yourself#4Arriving Late or Leaving Early#5Using Your Phone#6Inappropriate Comments About Inheritance or Money#7Gossiping About Other Family Members#8Neglecting to Offer Support#9Fragmenting the Family Dynamic#10Not Following Up#11Excessive Drinking or Poor Conduct at the Reception#12Bringing Uninvited Guests